How can we break cycles of negative automatic thoughts and feelings?
The first thing we need to do is recognise that we may not be practising self-compassion.
Admitting to ourselves that we are not being kind to ourselves is one of the hallmarks of body compassion and can facilitate a journey towards healing.
One of the hardest things that we will have to do as part of our journey towards self-acceptance and self-compassion is to admit that we are not there yet.
In this way we can begin a journey of authentic existence in which we become more aware of our patterns of shame-based behaviours.
benefits of practicing body compassion
-Understanding of self-care and self-compassion practices
-Understanding of how to foster internal stability and self-acceptance
- Understanding of relational effectiveness
What are the dangers of a negative body-image and an ongoing lack of self-compassion?
- Seeking instant gratification
is a term used to refer to self-compassion and body-image related self-acceptance. It is an understanding and a practice which entails the commitment to be kind to the self despite evident inadequacies.
It requires self-reflection and a desire to begin a journey of healing and personal freedom.
Most times, people are unaware that they have developed an identity built on performance.
As people we may be in a constant state of driving our bodies to perform under harsh internal and external conditions.
E.g. the surge of social media leaves people in a state of self-other comparison that results in negative and stress-based feelings.
The obsession with how we look in front of others makes self-acceptance almost a novelty.
In fact, many of us develop psychological and emotional challenges as a result.
A performance based identity is evident in the constant need to meet a standard that we set for ourselves based on external pressure.
These symptoms may be seen our need to alleviate anxiety through instant gratification.
Oral gratifications include certain foods and substances that we consume and then momentarily feel better.
Sensual gratifications may include most times relate to an activity that we experience through body contact.
Instant gratifications provide an escape from our difficult emotions.However, after a while we realise that there is a cycle as we constantly need to appease our anxious thoughts and feelings.
If you are routinely experiencing thoughts, feelings and actions that you want to keep private and that are often accompanied by guilt and anxiety; when you are ready it may be beneficial to grow your understanding of body compassion
involves the willingness to be aware of how we may not truly have accepted who we are.
It is also a decided turn towards showing deliberate care towards ourselves.
Self-acceptance in turn becomes a necessary accompaniment to the practice of mindfulness.
In order to be kind to yourself, there has to be a growing belief that you can attain emotional and psychological wellbeing.
This is where body compassion comes in, as a means of applying specific practices that invole your mind and your body through self-care and health promotion.